You see, I'm kindof in mourning.
Ok, maybe it's not as dramatic as it sounds, but in a way, it is.
You see, after parenting for almost 17 years, it will be coming to a close soon....and that is really hard for me.
I know, I will always be AJ's mom, but I have really enjoyed the mom-ing...the verb.
I was one of those kids who never really thought it would happen for me...you know, it. The fairy tale happily ever after where the little girl finds her true love, gets married, has babies, and...yeah. Just never thought it would happen...for me. But it did.
Tony is my buddy, my best friend, my love...the one with whom I would be happily stranded on a desert island...yep, that's my shmoopy! When he told me he loved me 21 years ago...wow...I was just, like...wow!
So then we married, and in spite of the doctors' negative prognoses, God saw fit to bless us with AJ....again...wow! I was always afraid that I would not know how to be a mom; I was too selfish, too much of a sound sleeper...you name it...but becoming AJ's mom was truly a dream come true. Our choice to teach him ourselves only intensified the magnitude of our delight in being parents...we didn't have to miss a thing! Even now I look back at videos (yes, I watched some this weekend!) and--it's not just skewed memories--raising AJ has been a blast!
And now, he's almost 17.
Please don't get me wrong, I am sooooo proud of the man he is becoming. He's fun, has a wonderful sense of humor, he's considerate and fiercely loyal to those he cares for. He is not frivolous with his affections, but carefully chooses those with whom he spends his time. He is a man of integrity, and I really like him. It's funny how well-meaning friends love to warn parents of the inevitable difficulties of the teen-age years (insert dramatic music here).
Newsflash: it's not a "given".
But I guess that's what makes this so hard...
I know I will always be AJ's mom, but I would be lying if I said that I am fine with going from a verb to a noun....
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